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> Maybe I'm an outlier there but I'm pretty quick in determining if someone is being sincere or just sweet-talking me to get what he/she wants. Personally, I f

> Maybe I'm an outlier there but I'm pretty quick in determining if someone is being sincere or just sweet-talking me to get what he/she wants. Personally, I feel the same way. But it's illogical. What data do you have that you're good at ferreting the genuine from the not?

ethn 8y ago
Millions and millions of interactions accumulating into a well-oiled intuition.
gricardo99 8y ago
Mostly likely that he has not been completely duped yet. That has the effect of quickly realigning your trust meter.
- verbatim 8y ago
  That may realign it, but it doesn't mean you're good at it. Maybe Joe-Z fails in the other direction, writes off tons of people as untrustworthy (incorrectly) for no reason, and hasn't realized it.
  - Joe-Z 8y ago
    >writing off tons of people as untrustwothy... I think that‘s what most people do. I‘m actually waiting for me to be „completely duped“ one time and deliberately exposing myself to this risk. However, my experience so far has lead me to believe: Most people are really nice and the few that aren‘t shouldn‘t really be tainting your interactions with others that you just happen to not know yet.
Joe-Z 8y ago
I of course don‘t have data to back this up. But, I think, a lot of it comes down to how you approach these sorts of situations. According to my experience, how open you are - and stay - in kind-of-sketchy situations will get you a long way in dealing with people that others might have just written off as „someone trying to scam me“. That actually reminded me of a really cool poscast episode I listened to this week: https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/long-distance https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/long-distance (A guy trying to get to the bottom of an indian call-center scam, leading to all sorts of pleasant interactions along the way)
- deadmetheny 8y ago
  The second part of that episode is in no way pleasant - in particular when they met the two scammers at the bar. Their flippancy could have very easily led to a much worse ending than it did. https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/103-long-distance-part-ii#episode-player https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/103-long-distance-part...
  - Joe-Z 8y ago
    I know, I know... I wasn‘t referring to this part as being pleasant :)

ethn 8y ago

Millions and millions of interactions accumulating into a well-oiled intuition.

gricardo99 8y ago

Mostly likely that he has not been completely duped yet. That has the effect of quickly realigning your trust meter.

verbatim 8y ago
That may realign it, but it doesn't mean you're good at it. Maybe Joe-Z fails in the other direction, writes off tons of people as untrustworthy (incorrectly) for no reason, and hasn't realized it.
- Joe-Z 8y ago
  >writing off tons of people as untrustwothy... I think that‘s what most people do. I‘m actually waiting for me to be „completely duped“ one time and deliberately exposing myself to this risk. However, my experience so far has lead me to believe: Most people are really nice and the few that aren‘t shouldn‘t really be tainting your interactions with others that you just happen to not know yet.

Joe-Z 8y ago

I of course don‘t have data to back this up. But, I think, a lot of it comes down to how you approach these sorts of situations. According to my experience, how open you are - and stay - in kind-of-sketchy situations will get you a long way in dealing with people that others might have just written off as „someone trying to scam me“. That actually reminded me of a really cool poscast episode I listened to this week: https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/long-distance https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/long-distance (A guy trying to get to the bottom of an indian call-center scam, leading to all sorts of pleasant interactions along the way)

deadmetheny 8y ago
The second part of that episode is in no way pleasant - in particular when they met the two scammers at the bar. Their flippancy could have very easily led to a much worse ending than it did. https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/103-long-distance-part-ii#episode-player https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/103-long-distance-part...
- Joe-Z 8y ago
  I know, I know... I wasn‘t referring to this part as being pleasant :)