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If someone engages with me near the post time on Reddit, then I have no issues ignoring them or responding respectfully. If someone counterpoints something I w

If someone engages with me near the post time on Reddit, then I have no issues ignoring them or responding respectfully. If someone counterpoints something I wrote 30+ days ago... nobody else is reading so it is now a cage match.

vinceguidry 8y ago
I like Quora for this. The threat of a BNBR ding is eternal and the panopticon unwavering. As a result every interaction becomes an opportunity for reflection.
- hyperpape 8y ago
  What is a BNBR ding? DuckDuckGo didn't turn anything up for me.
  - petecooper 8y ago
    >BNBR Be Nice, Be Respectful https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-policy https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-p...
  - psalminen 8y ago
    "Be Nice, Be Respectful"[0] [0] https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-policy https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-p...
- nerflad 8y ago
  My version of being Nice and Respectful tends to skew toward "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Which topics still have a good experience on Quora? I find the quality of the discussion, especially the quality of many of the questions themselves, to be quite low. They need more aggressive community moderation to filter out duplicates, miscategorizations and nonsense before potential answerers are notified/requested. It makes the site look bad. Almost every day I get an email that says something like "nerflad, so-and-so requested your answer to the question 'how dows computer work?'". Nearly all of the music questions are especially asinine and I just don't have the patience. Like so many others, I have completely stopped using Quora. Yes, occasionally there are still diamonds in the rough and Alan Kay will pop in to say something, but these kinds of interactions are the exception rather than the norm. Stack Overflow's moderation is considered Draconian by a lot of people, but it's their lifeblood in my opinion. Q+A sites need a hedge against the descent into Yahoo Answers madness.
  - microcolonel 8y ago
    > "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" I think this is the wrong model for productive discussions, since being afraid that somebody will be upset about merely being contradicted can tend to chill people from refuting things at all (which, to me at least, seems like the purpose of having conversations in the first place). I'd say it's more "If what you're saying is hostile to your interlocutor rather than the argument, then it does not belong in the thread.", however it seems some moderators do not feel that this is sufficient, hence I am hellbanned.
  - vinceguidry 8y ago
    I don't follow topics, I follow people. I'll read anything by Thierry Etienne Joseph Rotty, Dima Vorobiev, Franklin Veaux, Jenny Hawkins, Alex Cooper, among others. Following topics just gravitates you towards the cesspool that any large internet community has. I'm really careful about getting into discussions with people, particularly because I'm often operating in the atheism-theism debate. My default response, like you, is to not engage. When I do, I try to pick my words carefully. The second the interaction turns hostile, I'll report if warranted but in any case immediately disengage.

vinceguidry 8y ago

I like Quora for this. The threat of a BNBR ding is eternal and the panopticon unwavering. As a result every interaction becomes an opportunity for reflection.

hyperpape 8y ago
What is a BNBR ding? DuckDuckGo didn't turn anything up for me.
- petecooper 8y ago
  >BNBR Be Nice, Be Respectful https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-policy https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-p...
- psalminen 8y ago
  "Be Nice, Be Respectful"[0] [0] https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-policy https://www.quora.com/What-is-Quoras-Be-Nice-Be-Respectful-p...
nerflad 8y ago
My version of being Nice and Respectful tends to skew toward "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Which topics still have a good experience on Quora? I find the quality of the discussion, especially the quality of many of the questions themselves, to be quite low. They need more aggressive community moderation to filter out duplicates, miscategorizations and nonsense before potential answerers are notified/requested. It makes the site look bad. Almost every day I get an email that says something like "nerflad, so-and-so requested your answer to the question 'how dows computer work?'". Nearly all of the music questions are especially asinine and I just don't have the patience. Like so many others, I have completely stopped using Quora. Yes, occasionally there are still diamonds in the rough and Alan Kay will pop in to say something, but these kinds of interactions are the exception rather than the norm. Stack Overflow's moderation is considered Draconian by a lot of people, but it's their lifeblood in my opinion. Q+A sites need a hedge against the descent into Yahoo Answers madness.
- microcolonel 8y ago
  > "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" I think this is the wrong model for productive discussions, since being afraid that somebody will be upset about merely being contradicted can tend to chill people from refuting things at all (which, to me at least, seems like the purpose of having conversations in the first place). I'd say it's more "If what you're saying is hostile to your interlocutor rather than the argument, then it does not belong in the thread.", however it seems some moderators do not feel that this is sufficient, hence I am hellbanned.
- vinceguidry 8y ago
  I don't follow topics, I follow people. I'll read anything by Thierry Etienne Joseph Rotty, Dima Vorobiev, Franklin Veaux, Jenny Hawkins, Alex Cooper, among others. Following topics just gravitates you towards the cesspool that any large internet community has. I'm really careful about getting into discussions with people, particularly because I'm often operating in the atheism-theism debate. My default response, like you, is to not engage. When I do, I try to pick my words carefully. The second the interaction turns hostile, I'll report if warranted but in any case immediately disengage.