dignity/civility should be a self determined value rather than one instated by authority. it is impossible to create a universal standard of conduct that will b

dignity/civility should be a self determined value rather than one instated by authority. it is impossible to create a universal standard of conduct that will be adequate for everyone and we don't need to. you can call me a faggot or tell me to kill myself as much as you like and i really wont care at all, i want to see everything short of direct and malicious efforts to cause me real life harm (and arguably i want to know about those too). on the flip side you have older users who may be completely averse to course language or any interaction that falls beyond tv standards of etiquette, things that are relatively tame by internet standards may be completely offensive to them. how do you create a set of standards across your product that are adequate for both use cases without artificially limiting appeal to a single audience? empower users with the tools to define their own experiences and, if they so choose, filter out what they don't want without assuming what that is. perhaps you could even let users display their version of a content rating so that others could see what content they will and will not filter rather than the communication breakdown that emerges when some messages are opaquely censored. you could even use an honorific system to better determine what is an adequate level of filtering between two users. you might not want to hear 'i'm gonna fucking kill you' from a total rando, but if it comes from your spouse you probably should. don't tell the customers what they want when you don't know the answer.