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To those reading this fine post, instead of asking "How’s it going?" ask "Anything I can do". Likely there won't be an articulate, detailed answer. But if you
by wglb 8y ago
To those reading this fine post, instead of asking "How’s it going?" ask "Anything I can do". Likely there won't be an articulate, detailed answer. But if you just be with the grieving person, that can mean a lot.
- denzil_correa 8y ago> instead of asking "How’s it going?" ask "Anything I can do". The author specifically recommends NOT to throw the ball in the aggrieved person's court. > If you’re close enough to the survivors (or if they don’t seem like they have a lot of support), spend time with them. Don’t put the ball in their court. It’s a very rational feeling for grieving folks to say, “No one REALLY wants to be around someone in my state of mind — so I’ll spare them that.” You have to be pushy, which feels a bit unnatural when you’re trying to be respectful.