I think language coaching like this is misguided. It's just appealing to stereotypes. When I was out the last thing I wanted was more 'comfort'. I value sinceri

I think language coaching like this is misguided. It's just appealing to stereotypes. When I was out the last thing I wanted was more 'comfort'. I value sincerity as I think everybody does. If I just wanted stereotyped sympathy and compassion, I'd read a hallmark card. People should say what they feel they should say. So many people seem determined to instead try to create some sort of kosher and clean model of behavior and speech that can be friendly with everybody, when in reality it more often just comes off as being insincere to everybody. And to take that a step further I think that is a major contributing factor the scourge of loneliness and weak 'real' social ties today. Two people saying what they think the other person wants to hear hardly makes for engaging conversation. The internet masks this artificiality by giving us that nice dopamine rush from seeing the points by our comments go up when we say 'the right thing', which this most certainly is not - yet it's an honest opinion, which I think is infinitely more valuable.