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You don't have to be nice to everyone all the time. It's better to be grumpy, opinionated and even a nay sayer sometimes than to fake smile through everything.
by superasn 8y ago
You don't have to be nice to everyone all the time. It's better to be grumpy, opinionated and even a nay sayer sometimes than to fake smile through everything.
Because doing the later can give you physical symptoms like real back pain and migraines (collectively known as TMS) and millions of people suffer from it, get surgeries, medicine yet don't know that their persona is the cause of their physical pains.
This is what I learned the hard way after suffering from such aches and pains daily for nearly two decades and geting better quickly by just understanding the most basic thing about how our mind and body works.
- tempotemporary 8y agoCould you elaborate how being nice can cause a physical pain?
- superasn 8y agoIt's all there in the amazing book by Dr. John Sarno called the divided mind which I wrote about here (1). It's the clash between id and the super-ego that causes it and there are thousand (if not more) people who got better from this pain. If you search google for "TMS pain personality" you will find thousands of articles but this seems like a good start as any (2). Unfortunately it's not for everyone because you really need to have an open mind (it's okay if you're a skeptical though) to unlearn your pain. (1) https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17980964 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17980964 (2) http://www.tmswiki.org/ppd/TMS_Personality_Traits http://www.tmswiki.org/ppd/TMS_Personality_Traits