It's interesting to me how your language implies everyone has a niche out there that's best for them, and they just need to find it. A lot of people have a simi

It's interesting to me how your language implies everyone has a niche out there that's best for them, and they just need to find it. A lot of people have a similar mentality about relationships, that you have to find the right one. I think it can be harmful to use this lens, as it's easy to excuse a failure as a "bad fit", a losing gamble in the lottery, something unavoidable and absolute, rather than the result of personal actions and circumstances together. Attributing outcomes to your own actions is the way to self improvement and greater success, because it puts the focus on things you control.