Part of the drive to be the best may be due to conditional love. Some of us may have been raised in households where love was given out as a reward for marks a

Part of the drive to be the best may be due to conditional love. Some of us may have been raised in households where love was given out as a reward for marks at school or success in sports. And the converse was true as well, with love being withheld when these goals were not met. Anyone whose family have treated them this way can tell you that this pattern is toxic. Sadly, many of us then go on to internalise this and to treat ourselves this way,