I think this a sidee effect of the _goal driven_ mentality so common in the US. You're never just doing something for your enjoyment; you're doing it for a goal

I think this a sidee effect of the _goal driven_ mentality so common in the US. You're never just doing something for your enjoyment; you're doing it for a goal. It's never, ever, about the journey; it's absolutely always about the destination. Of course someone in that position won't enjoy a hobby: unless they can be the best at it, and do it for a reason (money, social status), they won't do it. Yesterday I was in the train and I overheard two young girls talking. One of them said she hoped she'd be made captain of her sports team at school, "because it would look good for college". That's it. That's the whole reason. Fill a role not because you want to contribute, or because you think you'd be good at it, but because it will be one more bullet point in a few years. This is part of a trend where I see kids growing being instructed to use 100% of their time with goal achievements. Leisure time is a reason for shame. Hobbies would just be a waste your time. You can't _find out who you are_; instead you just need to check the imaginary boxes set by someone else that will guarantee a superficially successful life.