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A crucial thing to do as you pass out of your 20's is to figure out a mechanism to regularly get together with the people in your life. It's simple stuff, like

by CPLX 8y ago

A crucial thing to do as you pass out of your 20's is to figure out a mechanism to regularly get together with the people in your life. It's simple stuff, like throwing a monthly happy hour, or dinner parties, or a yearly camping trip, or whatever. The details don't really matter that much, they should match who you are. Invite all the people you'd really like to see and stay in touch with. And an important point, don't worry about it. Many times people won't be able to come, or won't care, or will drop out for awhile and return, or who knows. That's not important, and it's really important to dispense with the anxiety that comes from being a host, worrying about if people will like it, if they'll like you, if they're happy, if enough people are coming, all that. Don't worry about that part, the point is just to have some kind of reference point and the ability to reach out to people and say hey let's stay in contact in the real world. A lot of people let this slip, and end up ten years later surrounded exclusively by people they connect to through work or parenting, plus occasional family. That's a mistake in my opinion.

jaymzcampbell 8y ago
I would very much second this advice. I've only recently started to take a more concerted effort to stay in touch with people. I was terrible in my 20s (I'm now 35) with avoiding all the social contact that I could. My girlfriend took the opposite approach and would just go out and develop new friendships. I'm lucky to have developed strong friendships from work colleagues over the years but I feel like I neglected some of my transient friendships. That said it's never too late, it's easy to convince yourself "oh this person will never want to hear from me after all this time" but you'd be surprised. The older you get the less I find the time between meeting matters, it's the fact you're reaching out.
watwut 8y ago
As someone who did not done the above, do the above. It was mistake not to do the above.

by CPLX 8y ago

jaymzcampbell 8y ago

I would very much second this advice. I've only recently started to take a more concerted effort to stay in touch with people. I was terrible in my 20s (I'm now 35) with avoiding all the social contact that I could. My girlfriend took the opposite approach and would just go out and develop new friendships. I'm lucky to have developed strong friendships from work colleagues over the years but I feel like I neglected some of my transient friendships. That said it's never too late, it's easy to convince yourself "oh this person will never want to hear from me after all this time" but you'd be surprised. The older you get the less I find the time between meeting matters, it's the fact you're reaching out.

watwut 8y ago

As someone who did not done the above, do the above. It was mistake not to do the above.