"I'm not the type to really reach out like "hey you wanna hang out" Me neither, but after my 30s I learned the value of actively cultivating some relationships

"I'm not the type to really reach out like "hey you wanna hang out" Me neither, but after my 30s I learned the value of actively cultivating some relationships with I people like, but that are no longer part of my daily life. WhatsApp helped tremmendly with that, btw. But I say really inviting people to physical world activities like dinners or movies (my kind of thing) and I try to never miss when someone of these people invite me to a barbecue in their houses (my place is too small to invite more than 4 people). I also have a group of friends who decided recently to meet monthly for a breakfast. Fortunately, there is one person that leads the gathering, but I always make sure to be present and help/support him when he is making this effort. I also know exactly who are the people that I want to actively cultivate and those who I'm fine meeting whenever life decides. These important people are not just the closest one. Of course there is a very close group of people. But the trick is that among the people that are not that close, the "second social circle" so to speak, I actively try to keep closer to those that are very good people, with good hearts and with whom I have a healthy relationship (i.e. the ones you feel happy after meeting, not guilty, or exhausted, or drained, or whatever level of toxicity there is). Edit: this is important because this is not correlated (maybe it is even negatively correlated) to the people that are most fun to hang out, the extrovert, funny, adventurous, cool ones. A good heart and genuine care about people beats all that. Even when it comes combined with "boring" Learn to reach out to hang out to good people. It will improve a lot you life quality. Find something in common - for me is usually superhero movies. It is something that both of us will want to do, it is nice to do together and help a lot for introverts as there is not that pressure to keep talking interesting/funny things like dinners. Two hours without any conversation and still brings people closer, after the movie for a burger, there is a natural subject to fill the conversation (the movie).