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I have absolutely no idea how you can draw this conclusion. There is a pretty obvious difference between "giving feedback in a respectful, polite and construct

I have absolutely no idea how you can draw this conclusion. There is a pretty obvious difference between "giving feedback in a respectful, polite and constructive manner" and "giving feedback in an aggressive, disrespectful and unhelpful manner". The former isn't "coddling" – it's "being a decent human being". The problem I see is that too many people seem to confuse "having strong views and standing by them" with "being an unnecessary dick about it". You don't have to do the latter to achieve the former, and I'd argue that it is almost universally harmful.

hashhar 8y ago
Reminds me a lot of a Jeff Atwood quote from the Stackoverflow.com podcast's initial days. >It's much better to have "strong views, weakly held" than to have "weak views, strongly held". Meaning that you should be confident in your opinions but at the same time be willing to concede defeat if someone can show you why your opinion is wrong or not the most optimal one. Rather than persistently defending a view that you also over time come to realise was wrong. Since you've invested so much time and are holding onto the weak view strongly, you would not want to abandon the view due to the feeling that it was all a waste.