I think you have two problems here that are in your control. >When she caught my CouchSurfing guests not using soap to wash the oil out of a tin of tuna, she w

I think you have two problems here that are in your control. >When she caught my CouchSurfing guests not using soap to wash the oil out of a tin of tuna, she wouldn't talk to me for 3 days and refused to let me have guests again You should consider getting a different girlfriend. Someone who blows up, and more importantly, refuses to talk to you because of something like this is not worth the effort. >If you want to throw away broken glass, and put the pieces inside a cereal box for safety, the rubbish collectors will yell at you for throwing it in non-recycling Another solution is to care less about the judgment of people who don't understand your circumstances or intentions.