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I have nothing but sympathy for you. You no doubt wrote this knowing some, perhaps most people would not understand your decisions and chastise you for them. Th

I have nothing but sympathy for you. You no doubt wrote this knowing some, perhaps most people would not understand your decisions and chastise you for them. They don't understand, maybe never will. At the same time, I implore you not to give up. For people with mental illnesses like you describe, access to reliable Healthcare is everything. A good doctor who monitors their medications is everything. If I were to describe the situation in engineering terms, I'd say that every single support such a person receives is load bearing. Which is why it can be just so difficult, when only one failing can lead to collapse. I hope you are able to help her, provide her with something. If nothing else, try to put a roof over her head. Being homeless makes all of those other problems of access worse. It does suck. I hope you try again. If you need someone to chat with feel free to reach out to me. My email is mayreply at my name dot com.

phaus 8y ago
> A good doctor who monitors their medications is everything Even if you have good healthcare most doctors and even most specialists are terrible at dealing with anything that they don't see on a daily basis. Having a spouse with multiple rare chronic ailments has been eye opening.
topmonk 8y ago
I have to ask, why is it his responsibility? If his childhood is so bad that he has no connection to her why should he work to improve her life rather than the life of any other homeless or mentally ill people? It's like a double whammy. Not only is your childhood destroyed, you now are somehow considered by society responsible for her just because she is your biological mother.
- Sean1708 8y ago
  I don't think they're suggesting that it is his responsibility, they're encouraging him to keep trying (because he's in a better position to help than most are) rather than berating him for not trying.
  - topmonk 8y ago
    Why is he in a better position? She probably will try to manipulate him more than a stranger trying to help. Also, he is bound to get triggered interacting with her. I would think he would be in a worse position to help her then others.
- tremon 8y ago
  Responsibility is a loaded word, especially in these cases. I'm not sure it's what you intended, but your simple question has a much more judgemental and condemning tone than the entire post you're replying to -- even though you are defending the OP.
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phaus 8y ago

> A good doctor who monitors their medications is everything Even if you have good healthcare most doctors and even most specialists are terrible at dealing with anything that they don't see on a daily basis. Having a spouse with multiple rare chronic ailments has been eye opening.

topmonk 8y ago

I have to ask, why is it his responsibility? If his childhood is so bad that he has no connection to her why should he work to improve her life rather than the life of any other homeless or mentally ill people? It's like a double whammy. Not only is your childhood destroyed, you now are somehow considered by society responsible for her just because she is your biological mother.

Sean1708 8y ago
I don't think they're suggesting that it is his responsibility, they're encouraging him to keep trying (because he's in a better position to help than most are) rather than berating him for not trying.
- topmonk 8y ago
  Why is he in a better position? She probably will try to manipulate him more than a stranger trying to help. Also, he is bound to get triggered interacting with her. I would think he would be in a worse position to help her then others.
tremon 8y ago
Responsibility is a loaded word, especially in these cases. I'm not sure it's what you intended, but your simple question has a much more judgemental and condemning tone than the entire post you're replying to -- even though you are defending the OP.
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