Codes of conducts sound like laws, but they arent written by legislatures, arent enforced by experienced judges, and do not get reviewed to balance their goals

Codes of conducts sound like laws, but they arent written by legislatures, arent enforced by experienced judges, and do not get reviewed to balance their goals against any high minded ideals like free speech, or even fairness to minority opinion groups. For example, while a CoC will ban something utterly because it is the easiest way to enforce, an actual law would throw in a caveat about malice being required, or dilineate how many chances you get before the ban hammer comes down. Ironically, many internet forums have rules much more similar laws than these new CoCs. Code of conducts sound like the ten commandments, they are good common sense but we need more than that to run a society... even a little one. We need to know who will enforce something, how much lineincy can be given, and what punishments there will be.