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> What point are you trying to illustrate? Are you saying I shouldn't have been called out on it? Because I disagree. The fact was, I found the post I replied t
by zeroname 8y ago
> What point are you trying to illustrate? Are you saying I shouldn't have been called out on it? Because I disagree. The fact was, I found the post I replied to annoying, and I replied in a tone that was stronger than it needed to be. It's a good thing that was called out. Next time I'll take a breather before replying and we'll have a more constructive exchange.
See, that's what I disagree with. To me that reads like almost pathological conflict-avoidance, or maybe it's the urge to not be a hypocrite. Either way, it's unnecessarily submissive and it's making you weak.
- Certhas 8y agoDoes it look like I'm shying away from conflict here?
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- zeroname 8y agoYes.
- Certhas 8y agoIt's attitudes like yours, that seem to equate conflict with aggression, not admitting mistakes with strength and bullying with commanding respect, that need to be opposed. CoCs or not.
- zeroname 8y ago> It's attitudes like yours, that seem to equate conflict with aggression I don't. Aggressiveness, especially passive-aggressiveness (like in your original reply) is usually a sign of weakness. > not admitting mistakes with strength You ceded to an overly pedantic and uncharitable interpretation of the CoC that, if applied, would be disastrous. People can't live up to that standard, applying it would be counter-productive even to your own goals. My goal was to make you realize that, not cave in. You had not made a mistake. > and bullying with commanding respect Asking people to live up to an extreme interpretation of an already highly subjective CoC, that is bullying in my book. If you actually commanded respect, you wouldn't need such a document in the first place. > ...that need to be opposed. You're opposing a straw man.