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Arrogance has a place and time. I enjoy running, so on race day when you need to summon all your strength being arrogant is useful. But it's usually harmful dur

Arrogance has a place and time. I enjoy running, so on race day when you need to summon all your strength being arrogant is useful. But it's usually harmful during training where you need to take it easy and listen to your body. I go to run meets where there are much faster people than me and I struggle to keep up, that is very humbling and keeps my ego in check. Also, going to races and seeing how much better trained other are does that too. Trying to tie this analogy back into your situation. There's no point in being right all the time at the expense of coming off rude. Save all that arrogance for when it counts and you need to win an argument, say in a meeting or something. Also, I would say that you are probably missing some growth opportunities by being arrogant. Take a step back and don't worry about being right, but about growing.

veddox 8y ago
I think you're missing the point of what arrogance is. Arrogance is not the same as being right and saying so. Arrogance is thinking you're right (whether you are or not is irrelevant), and saying so in a way that demeans others. Most people don't take offense just because you're smarter than them. But almost everybody takes offense if you behave as if you're better than them, just because you're smarter. Again, being humble doesn't mean having a bad opinion of yourself, it means having a high opinion of others. It has nothing to do with not saying what you believe to be right just to avoid a confrontation. It has everything to do with respecting the other person and showing them that you do; it means listening to and engaging with them instead of steamrollering them with your "right" solution. (Who knows, your "right" solution may still profit from their input... Regardless, at the end of the day, you are not only more likely to have a better solution, you will have also have invested into good relationships - and that is worth a lot more.)

veddox 8y ago

I think you're missing the point of what arrogance is. Arrogance is not the same as being right and saying so. Arrogance is thinking you're right (whether you are or not is irrelevant), and saying so in a way that demeans others. Most people don't take offense just because you're smarter than them. But almost everybody takes offense if you behave as if you're better than them, just because you're smarter. Again, being humble doesn't mean having a bad opinion of yourself, it means having a high opinion of others. It has nothing to do with not saying what you believe to be right just to avoid a confrontation. It has everything to do with respecting the other person and showing them that you do; it means listening to and engaging with them instead of steamrollering them with your "right" solution. (Who knows, your "right" solution may still profit from their input... Regardless, at the end of the day, you are not only more likely to have a better solution, you will have also have invested into good relationships - and that is worth a lot more.)