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>Women giving men compliments is, for the most part, interpreted as a come-on. It's not fair Umm..I'm pretty sure men complementing women have it a lot worse.
by compcoffee 8y ago
>Women giving men compliments is, for the most part, interpreted as a come-on. It's not fair
Umm..I'm pretty sure men complementing women have it a lot worse.
- crispinb 8y agoNot in my experience. If a woman does interpret a compliment as an approach, they are very unlikely to act as if that gives them carte blanche to behave proprietorially towards the complimenting party from that point on. It's hard to imagine the experience @DoreenMichelle reports happening to a man. Some 'compliments' are of course thinly-disguised acts of creepiness. Different category altogether, and dead easy to spot for people within a normal range of emotional intelligence. I compliment people (men & women alike) quite frequently. Usually on their work, sometimes on their behaviour in other respects, less commonly on appearance. When directed towards a woman, not once has this been interpreted (AFAIK) as a come-on or unwarranted approach. By and large people can tell when you're being friendly with a light touch, and without an agenda.
- ryanwaggoner 8y agoI am so confused...it sounds to me from the story not that she complimented someone who then starting acting like a psycho. It sounds like she complimented someone, things grew from there, they had an actual physical affair, and then he started acting like a psycho. Why is the compliment even remotely relevant to this chain of events? Do we imagine that if he made the first move he wouldn’t have turned out to be a psycho later? Or that psychos never make the first move? Maybe I just misread the story.