From what I've seen most parents effectively cease to exist once they get kids (i.e., drop hobbies) and their life revolves around their kids, so I am not reall

From what I've seen most parents effectively cease to exist once they get kids (i.e., drop hobbies) and their life revolves around their kids, so I am not really convinced that the time problems doesn't exist and parents don't just flag it as "OK" in their heads due to hyper-focus on their kids.