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Yes, but when your parents tell you something that doesn’t match reality as if it were fact, you start questioning everything you know. We’d never tell someone
by shawn 8y ago
Yes, but when your parents tell you something that doesn’t match reality as if it were fact, you start questioning everything you know.
We’d never tell someone “Don’t worry about acquiring skills. A job will be given thanks to your charming personality.” But we’re perfectly fine telling teenagers this about love. It’s no wonder they rebel.
- garmaine 8y agoI know plenty of introverted people who have no trouble finding romantic relationships. Maybe incels have trouble _because_ they are raging misogynists?
- shawn 8y agoArgument from experience is only valid when the dataset is large. On average, introverts won’t have success in love unless they work hard for it, just like everything else in life. It’s the lucky few who are the exception to the rule. Consider that your phrasing could also be called victim blaming, depending on how you classify those in question. Are people with genetic deformities allowed to feel upset that they are less likely to find love? It’s not a healthy way to deal with the situation, since it will only push people deeper into their entrenched communities, rallying those you label. After all, if the world thinks you’re a villain, why not act like one?
- meowface 8y agoI also know many introverts who have never been in a relationship and are technically "involuntarily celibate", yet they don't become misogynists and don't adopt this weird incel ideology. There's nothing wrong with being bad or awkward at romantic and sexual interactions. It's the people who already have a lot of issues that become misogynists as a result of romantic failure (or romantically fail because they were already misogynists).