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One thing I'm missing from this article is that a name is often one of the first things people hear about you, and our primate pattern-searching brains immediat
by Freak_NL 8y ago
One thing I'm missing from this article is that a name is often one of the first things people hear about you, and our primate pattern-searching brains immediately use that to lay the foundations of their first impression of you. When someone is juggling ten résumés for a job opening your name matters (even though it shouldn't) — and that's just the obvious example.
A lot of name trends automatically sort you into boxes. Sometimes based on class or (parental) income, sometimes skin colour or ethnicity, sometimes religion, and of course level of education¹. Whether you want to have you child deal with those stigma or not is a personal choice, but you can't change how people perceive names overnight.
Personally (and I actually get to do this in March) I would never use a name that strongly ties a child to religion or any other stigma that might hold them back.
It shouldn't be, but nomen est omen holds true.
1: If someone in the Netherlands names their son 'Jayden' or 'Mason', they probably didn't go to college. Yes, that is a horrible thing to conclude based solely on a name, but that is how names tend to work. Primate pattern-searching brains, remember?
- dagw 8y agoThat is another reason why I wanted to give my daughter a boring 'normal' name. I wanted he name to be as much of a blank slate as possible that people would draw as few conclusions from as possible.
- jerrre 8y agoA very common name also has its problems. Large chances of being compared to peers with the same name for example.
- pjc50 8y agoA good argument for doing blind judging of CVs.
- dharmon 8y agoI tell people you only get one freebie when having a kid: giving them a sensible name. Don't give them a dumb name that they have to introduce themselves with for years to come. The only acceptable follow-up sentence to "Hi, my name is Blue" is "....and my dad is Jay Z".