Maybe just ask the question you want to ask? Modern stacks can handle hundreds of thousands of connections these days, so this concern may be outdated. Then you

Maybe just ask the question you want to ask? Modern stacks can handle hundreds of thousands of connections these days, so this concern may be outdated. Then you could have a conversation about if there's enough CPU, is there enough RAM to handle the connections, network bandwidth, how you handle replication, failover, structuring software to handle lots of connections, etc, all of which indicate someone may actually know something, but you'll never get to that point because of the magic formula. Often these problems are used as a proxy for something else when you can actually talk about at that something else. Sometimes I think it's just because most people are covering for not knowing about that something else.