A middle ground solution between the former situation and leaving completely is to have someone [with good editor skills] edit your emails before they go. 1. W

A middle ground solution between the former situation and leaving completely is to have someone [with good editor skills] edit your emails before they go. 1. Write your usual technical emails with possibly some knee-jerk personal attacks stuffed in. 2. Click send; which sends the email to the email editor. The editor redacts your email, keeping the technical substance while removing anything personal. The editor could only remove the problematic stuff, and for instance keep the congrats, personal encouragements and whatever other personal positive remarks. With time, the editor can learn what can of messages make the community thrive, and edit the emails towards this. Some people are naturally good at this; for others, hiring someone to edit emails may end up cheap for the outcomes it may bring your organization.