Politeness should be low-cost. People going out of their way to make everything super nice are treating everyone as though they have fragile egos. What people

Politeness should be low-cost. People going out of their way to make everything super nice are treating everyone as though they have fragile egos. What people really want is to just know technically and precisely what is right and what is wrong so they can improve — leaving out all of the personal crap, positive and negative, except in the ways that people working together have normal human social relationships. So, like we can chat about our lives in downtime, water-cooler talk, and we can get to know one another. Extra politeness doesn't do that, it's just superficial. This is what I'm saying: https://www.npr.org/2018/06/04/616127481/when-everything-clicks-the-power-of-judgment-free-learning https://www.npr.org/2018/06/04/616127481/when-everything-cli...