It is worth being able to tell between two types of fears - one that is genuinely yours and one that you've picked up from other people. Speaking for myself, I

It is worth being able to tell between two types of fears - one that is genuinely yours and one that you've picked up from other people. Speaking for myself, I find quite a lot of them are of the second variety, which melt away when I ask this question. That leaves me with the first kind which is truly useful. The second kind seems to go with interested sounding warning phrases like "don't do this" and "be careful".