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I hear what you’re saying. However my experience (and suggestion) is the opposite. If one has trouble making small talk and networking a good trick is to get ot
by matt_the_bass 8y ago
I hear what you’re saying. However my experience (and suggestion) is the opposite. If one has trouble making small talk and networking a good trick is to get other people talking about themselves, their projects, their work. The best way to do that is to ask them questions. People in general like to talk about themselves.
- wallflower 8y agoI am not disagreeing with you. You are still asking questions here but initially putting out more into the interaction to try to tip it to an actual conversation. Let me give an example. Sometimes you have to jumpstart a conversation like you have to prime the pump. Person 1: "What did you think of the talk?" Person 2: "It was ok." (Kind of a knee-jerk almost blow off response) Person 1: "The talk was better than the morning keynote. I liked how she talked about how the technical debt at her company was so large they had to declare Chapter 11 Technical bankruptcy. I worked at a place that had a similar situation. I felt chills." (pause) Person 1: "I didn't get why she could not get approval for.."
- matt_the_bass 8y agoGot it! Thanks for clarifying.
- wallflower 8y agoYou're welcome. Eventually, it gets to the point where the other person feels the need to fill the pause. And then you have a conversation. The pause, though, can seem to be interminably long even if it is just like 5 seconds. If you don't pause, you won't give them an entry into the conversation. Some people won't interject or interrupt.