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Always be late. Grabbing a drink / food is a perfect time to start an intro convo with someone that you'll have a real convo with later on in the party. Don't t

Always be late. Grabbing a drink / food is a perfect time to start an intro convo with someone that you'll have a real convo with later on in the party. Don't talk about yourself ask questions of others. Don't bring up work. Don't drink too much. Look for opportunities to help others (grab them a drink.. offer direction.. etc. but avoid man-splanning). Most importantly have a good time. If your not.. then leave.

dennisgorelik 8y ago
> Don't bring up work Why not bring up work? Work is an important part of our identity. It makes sense to talk about it.
- rootedbox 8y ago
  Don't bring it up.. doesn't mean don't talk about it. If work comes up then it comes up. No matter how interesting / fun you think your job is; Work talk can lead to you talking to much about yourself in a way thats not interesting / fun. It can limit the type of people you meet, and you can miss out on some really great network building.
  - dennisgorelik 8y ago
    How could work "come up" if nobody brings it up?
  - dennisgorelik 8y ago
    > Work talk can lead to you talking to much about yourself That may happen with any topic. What is so special about work?
stronglikedan 8y ago
> Always be late. Unless you don't know anyone there except for the hosts. It's always easier to let them introduce you to the first few people through the door while the atmosphere is still calm. From there, you already have an "in" with the rest of their friends that show up later.
- rootedbox 8y ago
  Will have to disagree. It's even better when you only know the hosts to be late. Most people at a party don't know each other they are all getting to know each other. If you come in late.. some folks will already be looking for new people to talk to, and you'll essentially be "new kid in class".. aka someone new and exciting to talk to.
3rwww1 8y ago
> Don't bring up work I would bet from that statement you're not interested much in hearing about other people jobs and/or willing to talk about your own. But, well, I am, on both counts. YMMV. Since we're talking about scripted conversation, why not design a more evolved script that takes into account some people like to talk about their X, and some don't, such as: "Is your job interesting (smile) ?" If yes: question further and listen If not: say "good, mine neither (smile)" My take is it would work in some regions of the world where somewhat blunt, tongue-in-cheek questions, a tiny bit of healthy self-derogative sarcasm, and some obvious white lies aren't necessarily bad things.

dennisgorelik 8y ago

> Don't bring up work Why not bring up work? Work is an important part of our identity. It makes sense to talk about it.

rootedbox 8y ago
Don't bring it up.. doesn't mean don't talk about it. If work comes up then it comes up. No matter how interesting / fun you think your job is; Work talk can lead to you talking to much about yourself in a way thats not interesting / fun. It can limit the type of people you meet, and you can miss out on some really great network building.
- dennisgorelik 8y ago
  How could work "come up" if nobody brings it up?
- dennisgorelik 8y ago
  > Work talk can lead to you talking to much about yourself That may happen with any topic. What is so special about work?

stronglikedan 8y ago

> Always be late. Unless you don't know anyone there except for the hosts. It's always easier to let them introduce you to the first few people through the door while the atmosphere is still calm. From there, you already have an "in" with the rest of their friends that show up later.

rootedbox 8y ago
Will have to disagree. It's even better when you only know the hosts to be late. Most people at a party don't know each other they are all getting to know each other. If you come in late.. some folks will already be looking for new people to talk to, and you'll essentially be "new kid in class".. aka someone new and exciting to talk to.

3rwww1 8y ago

> Don't bring up work I would bet from that statement you're not interested much in hearing about other people jobs and/or willing to talk about your own. But, well, I am, on both counts. YMMV. Since we're talking about scripted conversation, why not design a more evolved script that takes into account some people like to talk about their X, and some don't, such as: "Is your job interesting (smile) ?" If yes: question further and listen If not: say "good, mine neither (smile)" My take is it would work in some regions of the world where somewhat blunt, tongue-in-cheek questions, a tiny bit of healthy self-derogative sarcasm, and some obvious white lies aren't necessarily bad things.