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It's not about having a party-rating, it's about having a better time at social events. If you don't like social events then that is an even better reason to wa

It's not about having a party-rating, it's about having a better time at social events. If you don't like social events then that is an even better reason to want to be "better" at them.

Nursie 8y ago
I'm not sure it is, it seems to be focused on making other people think well of you. > If you don't like social events then that is an even better reason to want to be "better" at them. I like social events, I'm just not really fussed by mass gatherings so much any more. Further, why would I want to be 'better' at something I'm not really bothered about? That seems a little perverse. I don't care for oysters. I'm not sure that means I should spend time studying how to eat them better, there are plenty of things I do like.
- jonknee 8y ago
  > I don't care for oysters. I'm not sure that means I should spend time studying how to eat them better, there are plenty of things I do like. Oysters aren't an unavoidable part of life?
  - Nursie 8y ago
    Neither are parties are they? I mean, I'm fine with them,I don't actively avoid them and I don't get anxious or have a terrible time. I just find them less appealing as I get older, especially when compared to having a good time with a small crowd of friends.
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glassesman 8y ago
I've gotten way "better" at social events and parties over the years. It hasn't changed my dislike for them; I still find them exhausting and unpleasant. I think it's important to remember that one's level of skill and appreciation of something aren't always directly related. I have found some things to be more enjoyable as I've improved (art, music, fighting games), but other things, like big social gatherings, remain unenjoyable for me.
- lmpostor 8y ago
  You're missing the point he just stated, the goal he described is appreciation. Creating your own appreciation in a specific context is the aforementioned skill, and finding it to be exhausting and unpleasant is reflective of not having that skill.

It's not about having a party-rating, it's about having a better time at social events. If you don't like social events then that is an even better reason to want to be "better" at them.

Nursie 8y ago

I'm not sure it is, it seems to be focused on making other people think well of you. > If you don't like social events then that is an even better reason to want to be "better" at them. I like social events, I'm just not really fussed by mass gatherings so much any more. Further, why would I want to be 'better' at something I'm not really bothered about? That seems a little perverse. I don't care for oysters. I'm not sure that means I should spend time studying how to eat them better, there are plenty of things I do like.

jonknee 8y ago
> I don't care for oysters. I'm not sure that means I should spend time studying how to eat them better, there are plenty of things I do like. Oysters aren't an unavoidable part of life?
- Nursie 8y ago
  Neither are parties are they? I mean, I'm fine with them,I don't actively avoid them and I don't get anxious or have a terrible time. I just find them less appealing as I get older, especially when compared to having a good time with a small crowd of friends.
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glassesman 8y ago

I've gotten way "better" at social events and parties over the years. It hasn't changed my dislike for them; I still find them exhausting and unpleasant. I think it's important to remember that one's level of skill and appreciation of something aren't always directly related. I have found some things to be more enjoyable as I've improved (art, music, fighting games), but other things, like big social gatherings, remain unenjoyable for me.

lmpostor 8y ago
You're missing the point he just stated, the goal he described is appreciation. Creating your own appreciation in a specific context is the aforementioned skill, and finding it to be exhausting and unpleasant is reflective of not having that skill.