Yes, I get that you've had a difficult divorce. I empathize. In saying "[e]ven if they could even get a divorce", I was speaking historically. In the US, as re

Yes, I get that you've had a difficult divorce. I empathize. In saying "[e]ven if they could even get a divorce", I was speaking historically. In the US, as recently as the late 19th century or the early 20th century. That's the context in which activists got current divorce law established. And about gender roles. I didn't mean to promote "outmoded views on gender roles". In my opinion, that's for partners to negotiate. But it's undeniable that those traditional gender roles remain all too prevalent. Also, as in your case, it's unfair that you pay 100% child support but additionally contribute well over 50% of childcare, both in time and money. It's just that you married an asshole. Or more charitably, a victim who likely gets validation (socially and legally) for casting you as the asshole.