Did none of this come up before marriage? And I don't mean offense by this - I know nothing about your particular situation. But personally, I have trust issue

Did none of this come up before marriage? And I don't mean offense by this - I know nothing about your particular situation. But personally, I have trust issues, so I would try to probe my partner in every way possible before committing to marriage, especially in a country where I, the man, stand to lose far more if it doesn't work out. When some people say "Oh I spent $100k on divorce lawyers" it absolutely horrifies me. $100k is higher than my entire net worth. My first boss probably lost to the tune of $1 million to his ex wife, despite still paying the majority of bills for the kids.