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I spent years trying to convince her to work at something. She sat around on facebook while taking days to do simple tasks like laundry. My family encouraged
by 01100011 8y ago
I spent years trying to convince her to work at something. She sat around on facebook while taking days to do simple tasks like laundry. My family encouraged her. Her friends ridiculed her. Nothing motivated her. She finally got a job folding shirts for a local t-shirt artist 10 hours a week under the table. You make a mistake of thinking I had some way to motivate her to act. We tried counseling and she dismissed the counselor("She's a liberal women who hates stay at home women"). The counselor echoed my feelings that I only wanted a partner in the marriage and not have to carry the burden of literally everything.
How was I supposed to make her work? Cut off her food supply? Put her over my knee? Your comment is naive and frankly offensive.
- antisthenes 8y agoDid none of this come up before marriage? And I don't mean offense by this - I know nothing about your particular situation. But personally, I have trust issues, so I would try to probe my partner in every way possible before committing to marriage, especially in a country where I, the man, stand to lose far more if it doesn't work out. When some people say "Oh I spent $100k on divorce lawyers" it absolutely horrifies me. $100k is higher than my entire net worth. My first boss probably lost to the tune of $1 million to his ex wife, despite still paying the majority of bills for the kids.
- 01100011 8y agoBefore marriage and for the first 10 years of the marriage she had a job(well, there was that couple years where she sat around playing team fortress classic all day.. but still). I was 21. I didn't know enough to ask the right questions and think ahead.