I'm not sure I could identify my "core values" in a crowd -- where I feel lucky is in the "healthy discussions". My husband and I don't hit each other with too

I'm not sure I could identify my "core values" in a crowd -- where I feel lucky is in the "healthy discussions". My husband and I don't hit each other with too many of the Four Horsemen: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-c...