Here's a concrete example: how does someone ask a peer to do something for them? There are a bunch of different ways this can be done, and only a small percenta

Here's a concrete example: how does someone ask a peer to do something for them? There are a bunch of different ways this can be done, and only a small percentage of them fall into 'asshole' territory, but if you ask ten people to define the 'asshole boundary', you will get ten different responses.