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I have responded to your email, although it's borderline creepy, and telling someone you've internet-stalked them is probably not the best approach. It doesn't

I have responded to your email, although it's borderline creepy, and telling someone you've internet-stalked them is probably not the best approach. It doesn't bother me if you sound, or are, defensive--people are naturally invested in their work, their image, their "self". Won't change my opinion(s), it takes two people to have a flame war, and I'd ignore anything war-like because I have actual stuff to do.

hluska 8y ago
This is a very classy reply - you've offered OP some wonderful help and dealt with a strange situation with tact and class. Have a great weekend!
- davelnewton 8y ago
  Ironically, that I would ignore anything war-like was parroted back to me as a bad thing in one of the OP's emails--he was offended because I used "profanity" (the word was "shitty") and he left in a huff after I spent the time to deal with both his post here, and his unsolicited emails asking for advice, with three resume versions to read, and asking how to get a job where I worked. Some people... shrug wth.
  - hluska 8y ago
    That's sad. You went way above what most people would do and it's upsetting that OP would treat you like that after you did so much. From my perspective, what you did is absolutely amazing and I hope that one bad apple doesn't make you change how you'd react in the future. This is one of those moments when Hacker News really needs an 'upvote' button and an 'upvote and buy lunch' button. Since I can't buy you lunch, at least accept my gratitude and respect. You're a good man and I have a lot of respect for the way you have handled this.
    - davelnewton 8y ago
      I (more or less) tend to operate, despite my cynical nature, that everyone's nice until proven otherwise. I genuinely enjoy helping people and providing feedback/mentoring/etc. My brevity is often taken for callousness, but that I spend the time at all is generally enough to offset concision--I do actually have stuff to do ;) shrug It takes all kinds and all that :) But thanks, appreciate the appreciation. His knee-jerk reaction was just that, and while annoying, ultimately inconsequential.

hluska 8y ago

This is a very classy reply - you've offered OP some wonderful help and dealt with a strange situation with tact and class. Have a great weekend!

davelnewton 8y ago
Ironically, that I would ignore anything war-like was parroted back to me as a bad thing in one of the OP's emails--he was offended because I used "profanity" (the word was "shitty") and he left in a huff after I spent the time to deal with both his post here, and his unsolicited emails asking for advice, with three resume versions to read, and asking how to get a job where I worked. Some people... shrug wth.
- hluska 8y ago
  That's sad. You went way above what most people would do and it's upsetting that OP would treat you like that after you did so much. From my perspective, what you did is absolutely amazing and I hope that one bad apple doesn't make you change how you'd react in the future. This is one of those moments when Hacker News really needs an 'upvote' button and an 'upvote and buy lunch' button. Since I can't buy you lunch, at least accept my gratitude and respect. You're a good man and I have a lot of respect for the way you have handled this.
  - davelnewton 8y ago
    I (more or less) tend to operate, despite my cynical nature, that everyone's nice until proven otherwise. I genuinely enjoy helping people and providing feedback/mentoring/etc. My brevity is often taken for callousness, but that I spend the time at all is generally enough to offset concision--I do actually have stuff to do ;) shrug It takes all kinds and all that :) But thanks, appreciate the appreciation. His knee-jerk reaction was just that, and while annoying, ultimately inconsequential.