> My policy was that he wasn't going to get in trouble for spilling stuff. Spills happen. That was basically the first thing I told my sister when she moved in

> My policy was that he wasn't going to get in trouble for spilling stuff. Spills happen. That was basically the first thing I told my sister when she moved in after our mum passed away a few months ago: "No matter which mistake you make, tell us. We won't punish you for that. However, if you lie to us, there will be some sort of punishment." So far, it seems to work out, as she's getting more and more open, and talks to us about her feelings, her day, etc. Something that wasn't possible in the very first beginning. She also admits mistakes she does, and starts to ask for help more often - not as much as we'd like, but... yeah. Hopefully, that will be better over the next months.