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"In July 1838, Charles Darwin, then 29, sat down to make a decision that would alter the course of his life [...] Should he get married?" Incidentally, Kierkeg
by runesoerensen 8y ago
"In July 1838, Charles Darwin, then 29, sat down to make a decision that would alter the course of his life [...] Should he get married?"
Incidentally, Kierkegaard kinda tried to answer this question 5 years later in Either/Or. A couple of related snippets:
"I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations — one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it — you will regret both" [0]
And a more long-winded version:
"Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy" [1]
[0] https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/28780-i-see-it-all-perfectly-there-are-two-possible-situations https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/28780-i-see-it-all-perfectl...
[1]https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/7141047-marry-and-you-will-regret-it-don-t-marry-you-will https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/7141047-marry-and-you-will-...
- q-base 8y agoI have Either/Or standing on my bookshelf - need to push it forward in my list of upcoming books to read. And given your name it could seem that we both share the same origin as Kierkegaard :)
- bopbop 8y agoThat's an excellent quote, thank you. Having said that, my take on that quote is that it seems a bit of a cop out - a way of absolving oneself of the consequences of ones actions. You may well regret both, but perhaps you will also enjoy one, or you will regret one less, or regret one more, or one has ramifications which due to your (hypothetical) selfish nature you may regret but are better for society, etc etc etc. Or is it meant to be more of a call to action as opposed to inaction? Make decisions, because you are damned regardless, so at least add your own breath to the winds of fate?
- emodendroket 8y agoMost of us end up constructing a narrative where whatever choices we made were the right ones, unless they go so disastrously wrong that we can't fool ourselves. So why agonize so much?
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- mercer 8y agoI think that's true, but only part of the time, and very dependent on context. Many, if not most people also experience periods where narrative is negative, and where we conclude that the choices we made were all the wrong ones. And quite likely most of us live with a combination of the two, depending on what area of life this 'narrative' occupies, depending on how much our self-respect or self-hatred is tied up with these areas, etc. The core problem, I think, is not primarily that we construct all sorts of highly subjective, distorted, self-serving or self-harming narratives, but that we get too attached to them and desire these narratives to be consistent. On the other hand I've met people (few of them though) who don't seem to have this desire to construct and maintain narratives, and while they do generally seem to live happier lives, some of them are perhaps a bit too lacking in introspection/narration and suffer from that.
- gowld 8y agoKierkegaard was the original "emo" nihilist. "Adding your own breth to the winds of fate" is adding 0 to 0.
- isoskeles 8y agoKierkegaard is usually considered the original existentialist. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existentialism#Confusion_with_nihilism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existentialism#Confusion_with_...