I've the feeling that this is actually a good thing, and that most flacking results from the fact that people feel pressed to say "yes" while actually they woul

I've the feeling that this is actually a good thing, and that most flacking results from the fact that people feel pressed to say "yes" while actually they would not, and is just simpler to say "oh sorry" later. And since in US AFAIK people have hard time to just say "no" in general, they say "maybe" when they actually mean "no". They should just say "no" often and when they say "yes" do the best to attend since they really wanted to do it. But still "maybe" it's better than saying "yes" to something you don't like to do actually.