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Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know

Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.

saiya-jin 8y ago
Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to terms with their body, their visual flaws (all of us has them) etc. and just enjoy themselves. What about trust? With prostitute, you know you can't trust her being healthy, with these ladies - is the approach the same or you hope she doesn't have 10 similar 'customers' like you?
- true_religion 8y ago
  School tuition is running at 31,000 a year, plus added expenses. Compared to that, how pricey can sex work really be?
- ddorian43 8y ago
  I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.
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- throwaway_nnn 8y ago
  I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers. Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men have fetishes they want to fulfill or they want to cheat. I'm actually doing well enough on Tinder to meet a new, above average girl every day in a big city. But I'm not in the social circles that would allow me to meet top current models or ballet dancers... But this makes it possible. It's just my impression that could be wrong but I'm 90%+ sure that none of the girls I was seeing had other "clients." I'm picky and I avoid girls who seem like "party girls" and have no job or don't go to school. Also, only one of them had a previous arrangement and all of them wanted to have chemistry first. They describe most of the other men they met as weird and unattractive. So I agree with you that you can't trust 80%+ of them if you care about not being just another client.
  - person_of_color 8y ago
    What's your age range?
    - throwaway_nnn 8y ago
      18-24. It would be quite hard for me to meet girls this age on Tinder but it's not hard for me to meet 25+ year-olds on it. @person_of_color Edit because I hit the posting limits: I've done it with breaks for real relationships in mid-to-late 30s.
      - person_of_color 8y ago
        I mean your age range - unless you are 18-24?
person_of_color 8y ago
What's your total compensation? How much do you spend monthly on your sugar partner?
- throwaway_nnn 8y ago
  $3k-7k per month. There was one exception at $10k/month but that involved threesomes.
  - ddorian43 8y ago
    Have you ever thought of working remote and going to a cheaper country and going Genghis Khan style on whores ?
    - dang 8y ago
      Your comments in this thread were borderline to start with but this is gross and nasty. Please don't do this on HN again.
      - ddorian43 8y ago
        Come on man, what did you expect. For goldiggers to be good people or smth ? I just asked the dude a question, if he thought of optimizing this thing (we programmers no?). Regarding my comments: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17901423 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17901423 (this doesn't look offensive to me, or did you expect that men feel sorry for goldi) But sometimes the world is nasty and we can't self-censor.
commodore__64 8y ago
Where do you meet the girls? Do the girls ever fall in love with you? Or you with them? How many girls do you see at a time? How long does the arrangement usually last? How much of the remuneration is in cash vs luxury items like jewellery, handbags, phones etc?
- throwaway_nnn 8y ago
  There is one poorly made website that seems to be dominating this market. It's seeking dot com. Yes, it happened. Two girls wanted to transition to a normal relationship after several months. One of them was this extremely smart girl I mentioned. But I just couldn't do it because of how we met. I did think about 3 girls (those two included) that I'd have no reason not to date them if we met in a different way. 1-2 at a time. When I'm single, I want to have some time for normal dating as well. They lasted from one month (or less if something didn't go well) to 8 months. It's a nice thing to be able to go out on normal dates while knowing that you can have sex with a girl just as good or better looking than the date and you're not cheating. Only cash. I don't see why I would want to spend my time going to stores with them or shopping online. I know it's a thing - I was asked to but I declined. On the other hand, I don't mind dinners or even traveling together if I want a companion. But I don't understand guys who do the shopping thing - maybe they are really in love and that's the way for them to impress the girl? But to me, it's not a "real" relationship.

saiya-jin 8y ago

Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to terms with their body, their visual flaws (all of us has them) etc. and just enjoy themselves. What about trust? With prostitute, you know you can't trust her being healthy, with these ladies - is the approach the same or you hope she doesn't have 10 similar 'customers' like you?

true_religion 8y ago
School tuition is running at 31,000 a year, plus added expenses. Compared to that, how pricey can sex work really be?
ddorian43 8y ago
I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.
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throwaway_nnn 8y ago
I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers. Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men have fetishes they want to fulfill or they want to cheat. I'm actually doing well enough on Tinder to meet a new, above average girl every day in a big city. But I'm not in the social circles that would allow me to meet top current models or ballet dancers... But this makes it possible. It's just my impression that could be wrong but I'm 90%+ sure that none of the girls I was seeing had other "clients." I'm picky and I avoid girls who seem like "party girls" and have no job or don't go to school. Also, only one of them had a previous arrangement and all of them wanted to have chemistry first. They describe most of the other men they met as weird and unattractive. So I agree with you that you can't trust 80%+ of them if you care about not being just another client.
- person_of_color 8y ago
  What's your age range?
  - throwaway_nnn 8y ago
    18-24. It would be quite hard for me to meet girls this age on Tinder but it's not hard for me to meet 25+ year-olds on it. @person_of_color Edit because I hit the posting limits: I've done it with breaks for real relationships in mid-to-late 30s.
    - person_of_color 8y ago
      I mean your age range - unless you are 18-24?

person_of_color 8y ago

What's your total compensation? How much do you spend monthly on your sugar partner?

throwaway_nnn 8y ago
$3k-7k per month. There was one exception at $10k/month but that involved threesomes.
- ddorian43 8y ago
  Have you ever thought of working remote and going to a cheaper country and going Genghis Khan style on whores ?
  - dang 8y ago
    Your comments in this thread were borderline to start with but this is gross and nasty. Please don't do this on HN again.
    - ddorian43 8y ago
      Come on man, what did you expect. For goldiggers to be good people or smth ? I just asked the dude a question, if he thought of optimizing this thing (we programmers no?). Regarding my comments: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17901423 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17901423 (this doesn't look offensive to me, or did you expect that men feel sorry for goldi) But sometimes the world is nasty and we can't self-censor.

commodore__64 8y ago

Where do you meet the girls? Do the girls ever fall in love with you? Or you with them? How many girls do you see at a time? How long does the arrangement usually last? How much of the remuneration is in cash vs luxury items like jewellery, handbags, phones etc?

throwaway_nnn 8y ago
There is one poorly made website that seems to be dominating this market. It's seeking dot com. Yes, it happened. Two girls wanted to transition to a normal relationship after several months. One of them was this extremely smart girl I mentioned. But I just couldn't do it because of how we met. I did think about 3 girls (those two included) that I'd have no reason not to date them if we met in a different way. 1-2 at a time. When I'm single, I want to have some time for normal dating as well. They lasted from one month (or less if something didn't go well) to 8 months. It's a nice thing to be able to go out on normal dates while knowing that you can have sex with a girl just as good or better looking than the date and you're not cheating. Only cash. I don't see why I would want to spend my time going to stores with them or shopping online. I know it's a thing - I was asked to but I declined. On the other hand, I don't mind dinners or even traveling together if I want a companion. But I don't understand guys who do the shopping thing - maybe they are really in love and that's the way for them to impress the girl? But to me, it's not a "real" relationship.