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I'd like to hear of any HNers who are involved in this lifestyle. Given SV pay, it must be not unheard of.

by person_of_color 8y ago

wisnswknsk 8y ago
I don't think the people on HN who are in sugar relationships realize it.
malmsteen 8y ago
Theres a whole subreddit about it and a few SVs guys talk openly (but anonymously) about it there.
- tw1010 8y ago
  Don't leave us hanging like that. Please link to the subreddit.
  - kimikelku 8y ago
    I think it might be this one /r/sugarlifestyleforum
    - throwaway_nnn 8y ago
      This subreddit is dominated by women who make it their lifestyle to be a sugar baby. It's not a representative sample, just as a Star Wars subreddit won't be a representative sample of all people who watched Star Wars movies. I'd recommend avoiding experienced girls like that (hypocritical, I know, since I'm also experienced) and not listening to any of their advice.
throwaway_nnn 8y ago
Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.
- saiya-jin 8y ago
  Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to terms with their body, their visual flaws (all of us has them) etc. and just enjoy themselves. What about trust? With prostitute, you know you can't trust her being healthy, with these ladies - is the approach the same or you hope she doesn't have 10 similar 'customers' like you?
  - true_religion 8y ago
    School tuition is running at 31,000 a year, plus added expenses. Compared to that, how pricey can sex work really be?
  - ddorian43 8y ago
    I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.
    - deleted 8y ago
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  - throwaway_nnn 8y ago
    I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers. Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men have fetishes they want to fulfill or they want to cheat. I'm actually doing well enough on Tinder to meet a new, above average girl every day in a big city. But I'm not in the social circles that would allow me to meet top current models or ballet dancers... But this makes it possible. It's just my impression that could be wrong but I'm 90%+ sure that none of the girls I was seeing had other "clients." I'm picky and I avoid girls who seem like "party girls" and have no job or don't go to school. Also, only one of them had a previous arrangement and all of them wanted to have chemistry first. They describe most of the other men they met as weird and unattractive. So I agree with you that you can't trust 80%+ of them if you care about not being just another client.

I'd like to hear of any HNers who are involved in this lifestyle. Given SV pay, it must be not unheard of.

wisnswknsk 8y ago

I don't think the people on HN who are in sugar relationships realize it.

malmsteen 8y ago

Theres a whole subreddit about it and a few SVs guys talk openly (but anonymously) about it there.

tw1010 8y ago
Don't leave us hanging like that. Please link to the subreddit.
- kimikelku 8y ago
  I think it might be this one /r/sugarlifestyleforum
  - throwaway_nnn 8y ago
    This subreddit is dominated by women who make it their lifestyle to be a sugar baby. It's not a representative sample, just as a Star Wars subreddit won't be a representative sample of all people who watched Star Wars movies. I'd recommend avoiding experienced girls like that (hypocritical, I know, since I'm also experienced) and not listening to any of their advice.

throwaway_nnn 8y ago

Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.

saiya-jin 8y ago
Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'. Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to terms with their body, their visual flaws (all of us has them) etc. and just enjoy themselves. What about trust? With prostitute, you know you can't trust her being healthy, with these ladies - is the approach the same or you hope she doesn't have 10 similar 'customers' like you?
- true_religion 8y ago
  School tuition is running at 31,000 a year, plus added expenses. Compared to that, how pricey can sex work really be?
- ddorian43 8y ago
  I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.
  - deleted 8y ago
    [deleted]
- throwaway_nnn 8y ago
  I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers. Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men have fetishes they want to fulfill or they want to cheat. I'm actually doing well enough on Tinder to meet a new, above average girl every day in a big city. But I'm not in the social circles that would allow me to meet top current models or ballet dancers... But this makes it possible. It's just my impression that could be wrong but I'm 90%+ sure that none of the girls I was seeing had other "clients." I'm picky and I avoid girls who seem like "party girls" and have no job or don't go to school. Also, only one of them had a previous arrangement and all of them wanted to have chemistry first. They describe most of the other men they met as weird and unattractive. So I agree with you that you can't trust 80%+ of them if you care about not being just another client.