Having seen this topic from both sides of the tables, I'm not sure if I agree. Don't get me wrong, I'm generally all for transparency, and I've also seen my sha

Having seen this topic from both sides of the tables, I'm not sure if I agree. Don't get me wrong, I'm generally all for transparency, and I've also seen my share of cases (including my own) where someone was treated unfairly and it would have been good to talk about it. But there's a few important and complex psychological factors at work here: - Self-serving bias. There's a study that about 80% of employees think they're better than average. Obviously, that's impossible, but it already sets the stage on a path to unhappiness. - Group bias and Dunning-Kruger. People mostly don't know _why_ exactly someone else earns more than them. Excluding real unfairness or the points below, there are often time cases where people really don't get the importance of some roles in the company or think they can do as good or the company can do without. As a techie, I've personally ridiculed the "business side" until I've witnessed the importance myself (and how much difference a bad to a good execution in this regard matters). - Global and local unfairness and market development. Firstly, local markets develop for hotly contested skills, sometimes very fast. Also, it makes a heck of a difference in which company stage someone is hired. A year later, I might have to pay someone much more to get into the same team. - Lastly, there can even be unfairness in fairness, hidden in plain view: Does someone getting relocated into a hot market really have to suffer paying double the rent as someone living there for years? Is having a family a personal luxury or partly beared by a socially responsible employer? Does someone with a PhD who's being outperformed by a young smart college dropout earn the same? More? Less? I don't know the answer to these questions, but all possible answers have some merit. Often times, I try to factor something about this in when deciding salary. In any case, it's freakishly hard to develop such thing as a "fair" salary over a whole company as an employer. - In most countries including mine, it's prohibited to _lower_ someone's salary, so the only way you can ever adjust local or global unfairness is to raise wages. What's following is this: All of these factors work together to create a lose-lose case to talking salary with others. The chances are enormously high you'll get demotivated. Most likely from your own salary, but even if you earn more than the others, it's awkward and hard to handle emotionally. Although it's probably good for your brain and overall heuristics development to do so, it will be bad for your heart. Proceed with care — and if you want my personal 2 cents: Don't keep what you learned from always giving your best and optimizing for learning. Keep up your spirits, stay positive and don't get into a defensive attitude. Search for like-minded people who see your real value and you'll keep reaping your fruits later on, trust me.