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I resent the smug tone of this post. I have ADHD; I am neither lazy nor stupid, but cooking is an ordeal for me. I cannot follow cooking instructions, at least

by amp108 8y ago

I resent the smug tone of this post. I have ADHD; I am neither lazy nor stupid, but cooking is an ordeal for me. I cannot follow cooking instructions, at least not reliably. I'll look at the list of ingredients and get the amounts wrong (mix up one line for the line below/above it), or do the steps out of order. I've forgotten to put the flavor packet in the pot when making Hamburger Helper. I've put chocolate chips into a cookie dough mix too early, meticulously picked them out, then dumped them right back in again. Congratulations for you that cooking is simple and easy. It isn't for everybody.

toomanybeersies 8y ago
I understand that it may be difficult for you, but the people we're talking about don't have ADHD, they're just lacking in basic life skills. A lot of people spend their first 18 years with no responsibilities, they always had a parent or someone else to do things for them. They are then rudely awakened when they leave home and have to fend for themselves. A lot of the skills that they were missing were things that I had been doing for years, because I was fortunate enough to have parents who taught me how to do things rather than just doing it for me. I disliked it at the time, having to do my own work, but it was important to learn. Often the skills that my friends were lacking were just basic life skills, such as being able to sew on a button or a patch, how to operate a washing machine properly, how to change a car tyre or their oil (or at least check their oil), how to iron a shirt, etc. etc. They were also lacking in more important life skills, like being able to budget properly and look after their money. I knew a group of girls in one house who ended up spending hundreds of dollars a month for electricity in winter, because they were running heaters in every room 24/7 to try and keep their uninsulated house warm, they just didn't even think of what their power bill would be and were shocked when they received it. I can't remember exactly what it was, but it was more than double what me and my housemates were paying.
- KozmoNau7 8y ago
  I think part of the problem is that a lot of people refuse to even try, maybe because something is not immediately obvious to them, or because they're afraid to fail. They're simply lacking in basic curiosity and cannot accept that sometimes you have to fail, in order to learn.
KozmoNau7 8y ago
I absolutely did not mean my post as a slight against people with ADHD, I sometimes struggle with deficient attention and focus myself, and I've done similar things to what you describe, especially if I've been tired or stressed out. My post was meant as a critique of otherwise normally-functioning adults who are somehow completely deficient in completely basic skills, and even lack the tools or willingness to apply previous experiences and learn how to do things. They're lacking the very basic skill of being able to learn, which I think is terrifying.

by amp108 8y ago

toomanybeersies 8y ago

I understand that it may be difficult for you, but the people we're talking about don't have ADHD, they're just lacking in basic life skills. A lot of people spend their first 18 years with no responsibilities, they always had a parent or someone else to do things for them. They are then rudely awakened when they leave home and have to fend for themselves. A lot of the skills that they were missing were things that I had been doing for years, because I was fortunate enough to have parents who taught me how to do things rather than just doing it for me. I disliked it at the time, having to do my own work, but it was important to learn. Often the skills that my friends were lacking were just basic life skills, such as being able to sew on a button or a patch, how to operate a washing machine properly, how to change a car tyre or their oil (or at least check their oil), how to iron a shirt, etc. etc. They were also lacking in more important life skills, like being able to budget properly and look after their money. I knew a group of girls in one house who ended up spending hundreds of dollars a month for electricity in winter, because they were running heaters in every room 24/7 to try and keep their uninsulated house warm, they just didn't even think of what their power bill would be and were shocked when they received it. I can't remember exactly what it was, but it was more than double what me and my housemates were paying.

KozmoNau7 8y ago
I think part of the problem is that a lot of people refuse to even try, maybe because something is not immediately obvious to them, or because they're afraid to fail. They're simply lacking in basic curiosity and cannot accept that sometimes you have to fail, in order to learn.

KozmoNau7 8y ago

I absolutely did not mean my post as a slight against people with ADHD, I sometimes struggle with deficient attention and focus myself, and I've done similar things to what you describe, especially if I've been tired or stressed out. My post was meant as a critique of otherwise normally-functioning adults who are somehow completely deficient in completely basic skills, and even lack the tools or willingness to apply previous experiences and learn how to do things. They're lacking the very basic skill of being able to learn, which I think is terrifying.