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>Its like having kids I have 2 kids. Everyone I've spoke to who has 3 or more has said that the jump from 2 to 3 is as big as the jump from 0 to 1.
by soperj 8y ago
>Its like having kids
I have 2 kids. Everyone I've spoke to who has 3 or more has said that the jump from 2 to 3 is as big as the jump from 0 to 1.
- poulsbohemian 8y agoI have three kids. When I am working one on one or even one on two, it's noticeably easier than when I have all three with me and am trying to assist them all with their needs. You play zone defense rather than man on man and as a result you are always stretched a little thin.
- projectramo 8y agoOkay, you're our expert on this thread. But note that the question is not if 3 kids are harder. They're obviously harder than 2. The question is (for the sake of the analogy), if going from 2 to 3 is harder than going from 1 to 2 or 0 to 1. We are talking strictly about incremental difficulty here.
- poulsbohemian 8y agoKids and languages aren't a reasonable comparison. None of us are born with children, but we are all born with language (of a sort, and yes I understand that opens the door to debate). On the topic of kids, going from 2 to 3 is significantly harder than going from 0-1 or 1-2, so much so that I'd say it was an unspoken factor in my divorce. Without providing any hard research to back my thoughts, I'd also surmise that it is difficult to transfer this onto the difficulty of learning a language. My thinking on this is that if for example you are learning another language within the same family, that is a different level of difficulty than learning a language in a new-to-you language family. As a German speaker, there are other Germanic languages that look very familiar to me, where I could take a reasonable guess at the meaning. On the other hand if I were to learn Mandarin or Russian, it would be a significantly larger task.
- sowbug 8y agoAges matter. If the oldest can help out, it scales better. But all pretense of democratic rule must be jettisoned once the kids outnumber the parents.
- poulsbohemian 8y agoI agree, and watching larger families in my community (where my three kids is a "small" family), it's obvious that older siblings take a significant role in helping the younger. That said, the demeanor of kids matters a lot, as my oldest (teenager) is significantly more of a challenge than my other two. She by herself takes more energy than the other two combined.
- projectileboy 8y agoHuh, interesting. This is tangential to the main thread, but I had the exact opposite experience - 0 to 1 was impossible, 1 to 2 was overwhelming, and 2 to 3 was merely difficult.
- soperj 8y agoFor me, 0-1 was difficult, 1-2 was barely noticeable, all the lifestyle changes had already been made, and there were no longer any surprises. When thinking about having a 3rd, everyone I've talked to has said it's an enormous jump.
- YouKnowBetter 8y agoI have 4. Less then 5 years between the first and fourth. From 2 to >2 was the biggest hurdle and the reason is simple: you have 2 hands with which you can totally control 2 kids. With >2 you need to master a different technic to control (read: keep 'm safe) under the most unexpected circumstances. Edit: and we speak 2 native languages, our kids have grownup in 2 different countries. Sofar they pick up languages pretty easy and I attribute that mainly to not being afraid to learn & make mistakes.