Similar to #5, so many of my friends have ended what seemed like solid relationships because the other person wasn't close enough to some magical ideal they hav

Similar to #5, so many of my friends have ended what seemed like solid relationships because the other person wasn't close enough to some magical ideal they have in their head. Obviously I'm not the one in the relationship, but I also get the feeling that they think I'm incredibly lucky to have found my wife relatively young, and it doesn't occur to them how much both my wife and I have changed over the years we've been together in order to be better to and for each other. An apparent match made in heaven takes a lot more work than a lot of people think. I had a few serious relationships before I met my wife and in my experience it's about finding someone you mesh well with and then deciding that you want to be with that person in a way that you're not constantly going to be comparing them to some mythical relationship that could have been.