One interesting gotcha, which people frequently find baffling, is that it's possible to take up hobbies which involve a lot of interaction with members of the o

One interesting gotcha, which people frequently find baffling, is that it's possible to take up hobbies which involve a lot of interaction with members of the opposite sex, but don't lend themselves well to actually getting to know them. I mean this in the sense that if you already struggle with connecting with people, just being around a greater volume of people won't fix that problem. I've been doing salsa somewhere between 2 and 5 nights a week more-or-less continuously for the last 6 years. By those who know me, i'm generally regarded as one of the best relative to my experience level (this is something I really struggle to accept, but I hear it enough to be willing to share it), and the vast majority of my friends are women. All of this has had zero impact on my confidence with women as far as dating or relationships are concerned, or even just casual purely platonic conversation with either women or men. My takeaway from this is, that if you are going to invest in an activity for the purpose of meeting people and building confidence, you'll want to to choose an activity that actually throws you into the situations you struggle with. So now i'm looking for a parallel interest, improv is actually pretty appealing.