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Depression, particularly since my wife of 28 years divorced me. It has gotten a lot better in recent months, but it's almost two years since she asked for the d
by adamc 8y ago
Depression, particularly since my wife of 28 years divorced me. It has gotten a lot better in recent months, but it's almost two years since she asked for the divorce.
And as I have turned to spiritual and mental health work to alleviate my depression, staying interesting in tech stuff. Although Racket and Rust look kind of fun.
- johnsonjo 8y agoJust recently started using a website for learning languages called exercism [0] yesterday that has tons of programming language exercises (including Rust and Racket). You might try that, although it doesn't teach you the language (you have to search for language specifics yourself) it gives you mentors that can comment on your particular submissions to exercises. I'm learning bash right now and submitted an incomplete exercise last night with a question and literally just got my first message from a mentor telling me how to print unsigned ints using printf as that was the last thing I needed to solve my exercise. Of course chat channels are helpful for getting aid too. [0]: https://exercism.io https://exercism.io
- xutopia 8y agoIt's been less than a year for me and I struggle with it too. I suspect from talking to people who went through the same thing that it is totally normal. Honestly a lot of the recommendations of people were to do work on myself or activities that are easier to do when not depressed. I decided to indulge in massages, vacation, audio books while taking nice walks and watching movies of genres I could never watch next to my ex.
- brown-dragon 8y ago28 years! It frightens me and boggles my mind how something like this can happen after being married for so long. Looking back do you have any idea why? I'm sorry for your loss and I hope it'll get better for you soon. As others have said it's perfectly normal to feel depressed at such a life altering event and it probably does take a year or two to recover.
- adamc 8y agoSome chronic depression before, maybe. But mostly, she said she wanted to find herself, and she couldn't do that with others around -- too hard to "hear herself think". Which is to say, I don't really know and never will.
- brown-dragon 8y agoI guess there are somethings you just have to let go off. I'm sorry man - I know it must have been hard. I hope it's getting better everyday.