I struggle to get respect in the workplace. New in the last 5 years. Have been a programmer since high school, now early-30’s. Am now homeless in Silicon Valle

I struggle to get respect in the workplace. New in the last 5 years. Have been a programmer since high school, now early-30’s. Am now homeless in Silicon Valley because coworkers at each job profile me wrong and bully me out. Recently I was wrongly identified as a Trumper and fired while on berevement leave via bogus HR reports. Later I had my Christmas days off revoked while boss was laughing in Hawaii at next employer, and had the final employer do an illegal reference check and refuse to officially acknowledge it—walked off these two. My network abandonded me in doubt, so options are worse than ever and confidence is hard to muster/maintain. Seems like there is no way to get on track beyond luck/good will, and I am so skeptical of nice gestures that it can be offputting for all involved.