Yes! Exactly. Intent and the meaning of what you say is important, sure, but equally if not more important is the effect and interpretation other people have

Yes! Exactly. Intent and the meaning of what you say is important, sure, but equally if not more important is the effect and interpretation other people have upon hearing it. If you say X and others hear Y, if your goal is to communicate in an efficient and respectful manner, then the clarity of Your own words is Your problem.