My wife is gorgeous but I gotta say - once you have kids, there is a very good chance you are in for a HUGE 'demotion' in terms of the attention you can expect

My wife is gorgeous but I gotta say - once you have kids, there is a very good chance you are in for a HUGE 'demotion' in terms of the attention you can expect to give and receive. There are far too many times I literally can't remember the last time my wife and I had a fun conversation not involving kids, school, housework. The impact on your married relationship will be non trivial. There are (hopefully) great benefits from working through all those kid-issues as a team. I don't regret having kids, but this really caught me by surprise, and not until several years after our first was born did it really sink in how our relationship had changed and how long that phase lasts. (well beyond the infant/toddler years)