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i think your rephrasing is more offensive than mine (and more confrontational in fact) because it is dripping in condescension. or maybe just your rephrasing at
by mlevental 8y ago
i think your rephrasing is more offensive than mine (and more confrontational in fact) because it is dripping in condescension. or maybe just your rephrasing at all is condescending. either way your point (that non-confrontational language is better/feasible) is made moot. what do you think?
- palimpsests 8y agoHi, thanks for letting me know how this landed for you. What about my phrasing felt condescending? If you are up for sharing I'd appreciate that. My point was not that non-confrontational language is better, per se - more that there's different ways to communicate the same things. You referred to the parent comment as "one of the dumbest responses" you've ever seen - which can be taken as a divisive statement (e.g. a type of "violence", in the parlance of NVC). And in that comment, I also heard some an expression of some of your values. I believe that most of us, if not all, desire more connection versus more division, and this is one of the things that NVC can be really helpful in creating. A way to communicate our needs and how to ask for them that fosters connection. And it's definitely a practice! I'm by no means an expert or master.