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Responding as "sorry, I didn't mean it that way" if you really didn't mean it that way requires you to say "sorry" and thus take responsibility for an offense t
by corndoge 8y ago
Responding as "sorry, I didn't mean it that way" if you really didn't mean it that way requires you to say "sorry" and thus take responsibility for an offense that was not committed. Obviously if you prefer to say it that way, maybe because your personality is leaned towards the conflict-avoidance side, sure. But not everybody wants to be held culpable for something they didn't do and don't want to say it that way. If you really meant no harm, then you shouldn't lose cred for simply responding "it wasn't a rape joke" and expecting to be taken at your word.
- Volundr 8y agoIt actually doesn't. "I'm sorry your mother is sick", in no way claims responsibility for making your mother sick. It simply shows empathy toward how the other person is feeling. Even if it did, communication is a two way street. You can't accept even the slightest bit of responsibility for not considering how your words might affect other people? I apologize when I bump into someone in the hallway. Doesn't mean I was out to get them, or it's all my fault, just that I was part of this interaction.
- autarch 8y agoOkay, if it really bothers you that much, omit the "sorry" and say the rest of the sentence. Sheesh.